Friendship is a huge part of everyone's life, whether they know it or not. Although relationships with parents determine in large measure our longer-term preferences, attitudes and values. It is often relationships with friends that cause most concern and which occupy the thoughts of young people as they grow up. Friendships are completely different compared to relationships with parents. Relationships with friends are more flexible and involve sharing and exchanging. Friendships are important to children but there is a change at the beginning of adolescence, a move to intimacy that includes the development of a more exclusive focus, a willingness to talk about oneself and to share problems and advice. Friends tell one another just about everything that is going on in each other's lives. Friends literally reason together in order to organise experience and to define themselves as persons.
A friend is someone who cherishes the special moments and memories of life with another person. A friend is a trustworthy companion. Friendship is a relationship which takes time to build. There are many steps and stages to achieving a true friendship which strangely enough is similar to DotA for its journey to achieving true godlikeness.(Well maybe not but don’t you find it boring without a joke or two?) One can think that building a friendship is like taking care of a garden. For many people, taking care of a garden represents patience, devotion and leisure. It takes loads of patience to grow a plant, frustrations and hardships are also involved in the process. Firstly the seed is planted. The seed builds the foundation of a strong and stable plant. It has to be taken care of and watered daily. Then the shoots start sprouting, the plant is finally flourishing. You can see day by day the garden maturing. Then one day the garden starts to wilt. One has to tend to it and have the patience and determination to bring it back to life. It frustrates one to see the insects and predators preying on the beautiful garden that once existed. But hard work and devotion regains the gardens beauty and gives it life again. Soon the
shoots blossoms and blooms into beautiful flowers.(For more info on planting..go play Harvest Moon..:P) The charm and
divine beauty of the garden is a wonderful and enlightening sight.
Building a friendship has similar characteristics. One meets a
person and plants the seed of friendship. The friendship builds
and continues to grow stronger. It requires devotion of time
and patience to achieve good communication between the two
companions. The struggle to keep a solid friendship has
many obstacles and hardships. By compromising, devotion and
the willingness to endure is bound to pay off in the end. Friendship has its good and bad times. There comes times when the relationship is just not working. It is preoccupied with disagreements and quarrels. It is on the verge of destruction. One must have the patience to deal with such frustrations. The willingness and determination to get the
relationship working again comes within. Compromising and
persistence rebuilds the friendship and is once again
re-established . Its great to have a strong and stable relationship which allows two companions to share the joys and memories of life together.
If building a friendship can be compared to planting a garden
then perhaps some of its frustrations and problems can be
better understood. The true meaning of friendship can be achieved
by understanding its comparison to planting a garden. A person
who builds a friendship like planting a garden can overcome the
obstacles of it very easily. The symbolism becomes clear and
precise. Friendship and planting a garden can both be said as
‘give and take’. The more effort and persistence put into them
the more stronger and everlasting friendship can be accomplished.
There are no limits for making friends. Anybody can be friends with another person.(Heck in my class I’ve seen a shark, a cat, a tiger, and a bunny become friends) Making friends for a lot of us comes naturally, but maintaining these friendships may become somewhat difficult. This is because true friendship cannot survive without these three aspects: Love, Respect and Honesty. If any of these aspects are lacking in the friendship, it will slowly be destroyed. True friendship needs equal shares of love, respect and honesty. Therefore, to maintain true friendship, you need the whole package, not just a part of it. Love is naturally in a part of any relationship. In a friendship, love can mean so many things. It means being there when your friend needs you, no matter what the circumstances may be. It means listening to your friend’s problems and giving them advice to help them out when they are not sure what to do. Or love can just mean giving your friend a hug to show them how much you care. When each friend feels this love, they feel respected. Love ties in to respect, which is another important part of true friendship. Respect in a friendship is just not given, it’s earned.(So u guys gotta respect me more!) Honesty on the other hand has to be practiced. One may not expect true friendship if they are not honest to their friends.
Life is more rewarding with friendship. Every day is a chance to meet someone new. It does not matter if you're at school, work, or just out running around, people are everywhere. Whether you get along with them or not is your choice. Friendship is not simply a "relationship", knowing someone, conversing with that person, or dealing with that person in business, school, or in casual acquaintance. True friendship is not just a "relationship", but self-sacrificing love. An acquaintance is not automatically considered a friend. Just because you know someone does not mean there is an instant friendship.This does not mean that an acquaintance cannot change into a valued friendship. There are qualities that a friend must have, but time is also a factor. A friendship can develop in as short as a day, or it could take as long as a few years for full development.In the end, if time is taken for full development, then a real friendship will develop.
Essay by: Chin Jun Hin
Special thanks to New Straits Times for letting me copy some of their writtings(though I din ask them for permission)..SOME ONI AR!!!Like…1 or 2 or maybe 15 lines….RAWR!!!!!=D~
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